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Truly most of the troubles we face in life are due to either "talking too much" or "talking at the wrong time". There is much hidden wisdom in the bible, but the scriptures agree.

Proverbs 10:19 When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise. NASB

You must think, who am I to be giving this message? And you are absolutely right! Here I am shooting my mouth off, blogging, every day. Truthfully, it does leave me open to criticism and ridicule. But this is the price I pay to reach "just a few people". (and it's worth it)

However, this saying is never so true as when it pertains to marriage. "Never miss an opportunity to Shut Up". If you want to difuse a potentially volatile situation with your spouse, simply "Shut Up". It's that simple.

Your two choices are "A and B". "A" You can add your two cents worth and retaliate, therefore, adding fuel to the fire. Or "B" you can shut up and let it burn out quickly as opposed to lasting days, weeks or months.

This applies the same way in most areas in life. To be right for the sake of winning an arguement, only glorifies yourself to yourself. Other people will just consider you a "know it all" Other people won't respect you and neither will God. You're the only one who will. (and that's sad)

Most of the time, to keep silent is to display wisdom. Eventually, people will seek out wisdom. Think about it~

Link: http://www.powerofaith.com/marage.htm

Newton's Law! "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction". It may not be what Newton had in mind, but this law especially applies in marriage. Your spouse says something mean and hateful to you, then what do you do? You retaliate of course. (you're only human)

The problem is you can't put out a fire by throwing gasoline on it. The only way to put out this particular kind of fire is to either let it burn out, (run out of fuel) or douse it with kindness. Anything other than that is simply adding fuel to it. If you want peace in your home, you have to be the one to "Break Newton's Law".

Is this easy? No way! It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do. It is not our nature to simply shut up when someone is hurling insults at us. However, it is the nature of Christ. If you hit a tire with a hammer, it will come back and hit you in the face! (don't try this at home folks, I'm a professional)

There's an old saying: "Never miss an opportunity to shut up".
Proverbs 10:19 When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise.

This advice isn't a "cure all" for every problem in your marriage, it's just a good place to start.